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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you’ve done something wrong, and instead of apologising, you make excuses? Perhaps you’ve even caught yourself doing this repeatedly, but still, you can’t seem to stop making excuses.
Well, the truth is making excuses is a defence mechanism that many people use to protect themselves from the consequences of their actions. It’s a way of avoiding responsibility and accountability for our mistakes.
The problem with making excuses instead of apologising is that it doesn’t solve anything. It doesn’t make the other person feel better, and it doesn’t address the root cause of the problem.
In fact, making excuses can often make the situation worse, as it can come across as insincere and dismissive of the other person’s feelings.
So, why do people make excuses instead of apologising? There are several reasons. Firstly, admitting fault can be difficult and uncomfortable. We may fear that it makes us look weak or vulnerable.
Secondly, we may have a fear of rejection or abandonment. We may worry that if we admit fault, the other person will no longer like us or want to be around us.
Finally, we may have a sense of entitlement or believe that we are always right, making it difficult to admit when we’re wrong.
However, it’s important to recognise that apologising is not a sign of weakness. In fact, it takes courage and strength to admit when we’re wrong and take responsibility for our actions.
So, if you find yourself making excuses instead of apologising, try to take a step back and reflect on why you’re doing this. Is it because of fear or a sense of entitlement? Once you understand the root cause of the problem, you can work on changing your behaviour and taking responsibility for your actions.
Remember, making excuses may feel like the easy way out, but it only serves to make the situation worse. Apologising, on the other hand, is a powerful tool that can help to repair relationships and build trust.
That’s it for today’s episode of The Strong Life Project. Remember, it’s never too late to start taking responsibility for your actions and making genuine apologies. Thanks for listening, and until next time, stay strong.