At some point in our life, we all want other people to take over control of what is happening and make decisions for us. It is very difficult to be strong enough to stand up for what you want and what you believe in. We often want other people to give us what we are after. All too often, we sit back and wait for what we want to come to us. We wait for other people to determine what we need and offer us those services or those things, but in reality, this never occurs.

We need to get off our ass and move forward and take the wheel of the bus of our life and drive forward. The analogy is if you had a bus, that was your life, and it is full of the people who you have in your life, in your family, work colleagues and everybody else, would you sit in the back of that bus and let someone else steer and take control, or would you be at the front taking control and driving it?

Unfortunately, so many people sit in the back of that bus and let somebody else take control, be it their husband, wife, partner, their boss, their kids, their parents, their friend, whoever it is. You need to take control of the bus and make decisions for yourself. There is no one else coming. No one else is going to make your decisions. No one else is going to determine the best outcome. No one else is going to make your life a success and make you happy.

The ultimate responsibility for your own happiness rests with you. The ultimate responsibility for your own success rests with you. Nobody else can do it for you. When you let somebody else take control of your life and make your decisions, you’re only headed in one direction, and that’s a negative one. That is going to end in disaster. Because nobody knows you better than you and nobody knows what you need better than you know what you need. You need to take the responsibility for your own life, move forward, and put the actions and the plans in place to achieve what you want to achieve.

Don’t sit back and hope that someone else is going to come and do it for you because that is never going to happen. There is only ever one person who will take the control and do what needs to happen in your life, and that is you. Don’t let somebody else be the person who takes responsibility for you. Don’t let somebody else be the person who then takes the ultimate accountability for where you end up in your life. You are an adult; you need to take responsibility for yourself. You need to be serious about the person you are, and ultimately you need to determine what it is that you want from your life.

If you merely sit in the backseat of your life and let somebody else drive that bus, then you are going to end up where they want to go. You will arrive at a destination that, at best, is okay for you but is not something that you have created, nor is it something that is your positive and affirmative action. No one else is coming. You need to take control. You need to take the wheel.