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I HATE THE MASK (The Stigma of PTSD)

I HATE THE MASK (The Stigma of PTSD)

Today I've heard about another soldier who has committed suicide as a result of mental injuries suffered through combat in Afghanistan. It greatly concerns me how many men and women are out there struggling who are police, military or first responders, because of the...

WILL YOU ASK THE TOUGH QUESTIONS???

WILL YOU ASK THE TOUGH QUESTIONS???

I have recently launched my book “My Dark Companion” which is my story about 13 years as a Police Officer and my subsequent journey through PTSD, depression and suicide. The response to the book has been amazing and I have received so many message from people all over...

Even Astronauts fail

Even Astronauts fail

I went to my 11-year-old daughters primary school graduation last night, going from Grade 6 to Grade 7, she is such a beautiful kid, I was very proud of her. The principal was talking about resilience and how life can be tough sometimes. I was super impressed that...

You won’t give up dumb shit

You won’t give up dumb shit

The reason that you’re unhappy is because you won’t give up dumb shit. You wont give up the things that don’t serve you and you won’t give up the things that cause you grief. One of the simplest examples of this that I can give you comes back to our health and...

You’re responsible for the man in the mirror

You’re responsible for the man in the mirror

When you look in the mirror and you see the person looking back at you, you’re responsible for everything about that guy. There are certainly things that happen in your life that are out of your control, but you are 100% responsible for your reaction and how you deal...

Do you “GO WITH THE FLOW???”

Do you “GO WITH THE FLOW???”

There are 2 ways to handle any situation in your life. 1. Fight it and push against whatever is happening in the hope that it changes, 2. Accept where you are and then change your decisions and behaviours to generate a different outcome. I suggest that the 2nd option...

THE MASK WE LIVE IN

THE MASK WE LIVE IN

From a young age we teach our boys that to cry is weakness, that to have emotion is weakness, that you need to deal with shit on your own, you need to Man Up and keep your problems to yourself and deal with them. On the other side of the coin we teach our girls that...

How do you deal with the loss of a loved one???

How do you deal with the loss of a loved one???

Recently I have known a number of people who lost loved ones through unforeseen circumstances and this has had me contemplating just how can you get over this tremendous loss and move on with your life? Only a few days ago a friend of mine passed away in his sleep, he...

Go where they CELEBRATE you, not where they TOLERATE you.

Go where they CELEBRATE you, not where they TOLERATE you.

Too many people live their live surrounded by critical and negative people because they believe that’s just how life is. When you live where the people celebrate who your are, not just tolerate who you are, you will be much happier, more productive and will generally...

Talking will SAVE YOUR LIFE!!!

Talking will SAVE YOUR LIFE!!!

As men we have been taught our whole lives that “Boys don’t cry” and men are tough and don’t talk about their feelings. The problem with this is men then become so closed off emotionally and we keep everything that bothers us to ourselves. When we keep everything...

How do I “LIVE THE STRONG LIFE?”

How do I “LIVE THE STRONG LIFE?”

It means living Strength, Tenacity, Resilience, Optimism, Nurturing and Generosity. SO many people live their lives just surviving and putting up with mediocre. There is a different way for you to live and that is to show up as the best version of yourself and do...

Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work

Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work

We often hear about people who are born with amazing talent and skill in a particular area. Athletes, Business people, Authors, Actors the list goes on and on. The reality of this situation is that talent is a small part of the equation. Talent will only take you a...

Anything AMAZING takes time, but it’s worth it

Anything AMAZING takes time, but it’s worth it

Anything that is worthwhile in your life takes time. If you want AMAZING results then it is going to take time and effort, if you are happy with mediocre then you can cruise along with little effort and you can have it now. If you want to live a life that not many...

Surrender to the Journey

Surrender to the Journey

One of the topics that I discuss the most with the people I work with is how to follow their dreams and live an amazing life. But it is not easy. Through the journey of the past 46 years I have learned much about what works in my life and what doesn’t. Usually I...

What other people think of you is none of your business

What other people think of you is none of your business

One of the major problems I see with many of the people I work with is that they care way too much about what other people think of them. We have all been conditioned to try to keep everyone around us happy and to try and fit in with the crowd, the problem is this...