You choose your reaction to assholes.

Sometimes people in your life will treat you poorly, and unfortunately, that is just the reality. Some people are suffering with a lot with their own demons and drama, which has them act less than appropriately to the people around them. You cannot influence their behavior. All you can do…

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Suicide is NEVER the answer

In the last three days there has been four police officers that have committed suicide in the U.S. and in Australia. One very close to home for me is a guy who I don’t know, but is a very good friend of some very good friends of mine. What really…

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Why is my POLICE spouse so angry???

Police officers have a very unique role to play in society that has them interacting with people and experiences in situations that most human beings will never experience. A police officer will see more violence, trauma, death and injury in one eight hour shift than most normal members of society…

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Treat yourself like a Warrior Athlete

In today’s modern society law enforcement, military, and first responder personnel need to treat themselves like warrior athletes. An athlete is somebody who eats, sleeps, trains, rests, does everything in their life motivated and focused on gaining the absolute best they can out of themselves in every situation. As a…

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PTSD is an injury

Post-traumatic stress disorder is a mental injury, not a mental illness. The medical profession may classify this as a mental illness, but in my opinion this is an injury that has occurred as a result of the trauma and the violence that you have experienced as part of your career,…

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I HATE THE MASK (The Stigma of PTSD)

Today I’ve heard about another soldier who has committed suicide as a result of mental injuries suffered through combat in Afghanistan. It greatly concerns me how many men and women are out there struggling who are police, military or first responders, because of the mental health stigma that we have…

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WILL YOU ASK THE TOUGH QUESTIONS???

I have recently launched my book “My Dark Companion” which is my story about 13 years as a Police Officer and my subsequent journey through PTSD, depression and suicide. The response to the book has been amazing and I have received so many message from people all over the world…

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Even Astronauts fail

I went to my 11-year-old daughters primary school graduation last night, going from Grade 6 to Grade 7, she is such a beautiful kid, I was very proud of her. The principal was talking about resilience and how life can be tough sometimes. I was super impressed that these days…

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You won’t give up dumb shit

The reason that you’re unhappy is because you won’t give up dumb shit. You wont give up the things that don’t serve you and you won’t give up the things that cause you grief. One of the simplest examples of this that I can give you comes back to our…

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Do you “GO WITH THE FLOW???”

There are 2 ways to handle any situation in your life. 1. Fight it and push against whatever is happening in the hope that it changes, 2. Accept where you are and then change your decisions and behaviours to generate a different outcome. I suggest that the 2nd option is…

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THE MASK WE LIVE IN

From a young age we teach our boys that to cry is weakness, that to have emotion is weakness, that you need to deal with shit on your own, you need to Man Up and keep your problems to yourself and deal with them. On the other side of the…

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Talking will SAVE YOUR LIFE!!!

As men we have been taught our whole lives that “Boys don’t cry” and men are tough and don’t talk about their feelings. The problem with this is men then become so closed off emotionally and we keep everything that bothers us to ourselves. When we keep everything bottled up…

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How do I “LIVE THE STRONG LIFE?”

It means living Strength, Tenacity, Resilience, Optimism, Nurturing and Generosity. SO many people live their lives just surviving and putting up with mediocre. There is a different way for you to live and that is to show up as the best version of yourself and do whatever is possible to…

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