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You have survived 100% of your challenges so far

You have survived 100% of your challenges so far

I was recently reminded of this quote I love when a good friend of mine referenced me using it with him in an article he wrote. It really sums up the attitude I endeavour to have towards any challenge or obstacle I encounter in my life. In today's environment, where...

How to deal with the pressure and stigma of critical stress

How to deal with the pressure and stigma of critical stress

The pressure that comes from what you see in your career is going to have an effect on you. It is going to affect your life, your relationships, your family, your mental health, and your levels of stress. The issue for you is the stigma that surrounds mental health...

Recognise the signs your job is affecting you

Recognise the signs your job is affecting you

There are several signs that the job is affecting you, and as a police office, it must affect you. You cannot see the violence and trauma that you experience and not have it come out in other areas of your life. You will find yourself being potentially more reactive,...

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU GET PUNCHED IN THE FACE???

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU GET PUNCHED IN THE FACE???

It’s 3.28am, I have just gotten out of bed to try to make sense of a shit situation. Yesterday I took a massive punch to the face and I am still reeling. Unfortunately, due to factors that I won’t discuss to protect their privacy, I find myself having very limited...

Why do we reward mediocrity???

Why do we reward mediocrity???

In today's society I believe we reward peoples' mediocrity and we discourage people from striving to be amazing. All too often we want people to fit into the crowd and we don't want people to stand out. Society is geared for us all to remain at the same level, and if...

Look at your friends and you see your future

Look at your friends and you see your future

The people that we surround ourselves with dictate the future success that we will enjoy in our life. Too many people have friends in their life that are negative, who don't believe anything's possible, who will deliberately sabotage you to keep you down so they don't...

Ineffective leaders ruin businesses

Ineffective leaders ruin businesses

I'm so surprised at how little education, influence, time, and money is put into developing decent leaders within businesses. All too often people think leaders just appear, as though it is a natural born skill that every person has. I believe that there are people...

Make the most of your time for your children’s sake

Make the most of your time for your children’s sake

The time you spend with your children is critical to their development. Their confidence, their emotional connection, their self-awareness is all dependent on the time you spend with them and how you parent them. All too often I see parents take this responsibility...

Managers light a fire under people, Leaders light a fire in people

Managers light a fire under people, Leaders light a fire in people

There is a huge difference between managing people and leading people. My belief is that there are very few natural born leaders in life, but there are many amazing leaders who have developed their skills throughout their life. The number one key to being an amazing...

Embrace being different

Embrace being different

For much of my life, I felt very different to most people around me. For a long time I saw this as a weakness and something I wanted to rectify. These days, I am more than aware that it is an absolute strength and something that I not only embrace, but I strive to...

Never apologize for who you are

Never apologize for who you are

As you travel through your life, you will come across people who don't like you. You will come across people whom you are just not their cup of tea. Sometimes, unfortunately in life, we will find people that just do not like us for whatever reason. When you are strong...

FUCK Failure!!!

FUCK Failure!!!

Fuck failure. I will not accept failure in my life. I will never quit. I will never give in. When you are going through your life, and when you are trying to achieve something spectacular, you will have stumbles, you will have obstacles, and you will have failures,...

Who is driving the bus???

Who is driving the bus???

At some point in our life, we all want other people to take over control of what is happening and make decisions for us. It is very difficult to be strong enough to stand up for what you want and what you believe in. We often want other people to give us what we are...

5 keys to Great Mental Health

5 keys to Great Mental Health

This is my very first article written especially for the WPN Wear Community. I'm so excited to have come on board as an ambassador for WPN Wear around mental health and how we can help men to be more emotionally connected, more powerful and more successful in their...

You choose your reaction to assholes.

You choose your reaction to assholes.

Sometimes people in your life will treat you poorly, and unfortunately, that is just the reality. Some people are suffering with a lot with their own demons and drama, which has them act less than appropriately to the people around them. You cannot influence their...

Suicide is NEVER the answer

Suicide is NEVER the answer

In the last three days there has been four police officers that have committed suicide in the U.S. and in Australia. One very close to home for me is a guy who I don't know, but is a very good friend of some very good friends of mine. What really hit home to me is the...

Why is my POLICE spouse so angry???

Why is my POLICE spouse so angry???

Police officers have a very unique role to play in society that has them interacting with people and experiences in situations that most human beings will never experience. A police officer will see more violence, trauma, death and injury in one eight hour shift than...

Treat yourself like a Warrior Athlete

Treat yourself like a Warrior Athlete

In today's modern society law enforcement, military, and first responder personnel need to treat themselves like warrior athletes. An athlete is somebody who eats, sleeps, trains, rests, does everything in their life motivated and focused on gaining the absolute best...

Tell your boys it’s okay to be emotional

Tell your boys it’s okay to be emotional

As a society we have this archaic idea that boys shouldn't cry and men should not show emotion. The ideal man in our societal view is a strong, stoic individual who shows no emotion and stays tough no matter the situation. The saying, "man up," is a great example of...

PTSD is an injury

PTSD is an injury

Post-traumatic stress disorder is a mental injury, not a mental illness. The medical profession may classify this as a mental illness, but in my opinion this is an injury that has occurred as a result of the trauma and the violence that you have experienced as part of...

I HATE THE MASK (The Stigma of PTSD)

I HATE THE MASK (The Stigma of PTSD)

Today I've heard about another soldier who has committed suicide as a result of mental injuries suffered through combat in Afghanistan. It greatly concerns me how many men and women are out there struggling who are police, military or first responders, because of the...

WILL YOU ASK THE TOUGH QUESTIONS???

WILL YOU ASK THE TOUGH QUESTIONS???

I have recently launched my book “My Dark Companion” which is my story about 13 years as a Police Officer and my subsequent journey through PTSD, depression and suicide. The response to the book has been amazing and I have received so many message from people all over...

Even Astronauts fail

Even Astronauts fail

I went to my 11-year-old daughters primary school graduation last night, going from Grade 6 to Grade 7, she is such a beautiful kid, I was very proud of her. The principal was talking about resilience and how life can be tough sometimes. I was super impressed that...

You won’t give up dumb shit

You won’t give up dumb shit

The reason that you’re unhappy is because you won’t give up dumb shit. You wont give up the things that don’t serve you and you won’t give up the things that cause you grief. One of the simplest examples of this that I can give you comes back to our health and...